You don’t have to have anything “wrong” with you to go to therapy.

As much as mental health and going to therapy has been more accepted in recent years, we still have a long ways to go. There is still quite a bit of stigma around talking to a therapist and the reasons why you might see one. No, therapy is not just for “crazy” people. As incorrect as this label is, people still believe it. Some of these stereotypes come from places of judgement and others come from genuine lack of knowledge on mental health services. In this blog post I’m going to dive into why you dont have to have anything wrong with you to go to therapy or to go back to therapy.

THE STEREOTYPES

It is still a very common belief that therapy is for people who fall under a certain labels. Some of those labels may sound like:
“crazy” people (this is actually very rude and offensive)
women who are super emotional
people who are emotionally weak
people who have to “pay” for someone to listen to their problems
people with a lot to complain about
“damaged” people (again, rude and offensive)
people who cant make decisions for themselves and need a therapist to tell them what to do
people on medication
people who dont have a healthy support system/loved ones to talk to
rich people
These and countless other stereotypes are not only hurtful to the people who are trying to better themselves with therapy, but they also give the wrong idea to those who are interested in it. Next, I’m going to break down some of the reasons one might go to therapy and how it can be helpful for everyone.

Keep in mind as you read, you DO NOT have to have something “wrong” with you to go to therapy.

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WHY GO TO THERAPY IN THE FIRST PLACE?

Therapist, counselors, clinical social workers, and psychologist are just a few types of professional who can provide you with therapy. These professional have a wide range of skills that go beyond helping someone out of depression or the rock bottom points of their life. Although these are important reasons to seek help, I’m going to cover some lesser known ways a therapist might help you.

Life can get pretty complicated pretty fast. This doesn’t always mean something bad is happening. We can probably all agree our lives a busy, right? Well the hard fact of the matter is that life never truly going “slow down”. As we progress through life we will most likely reach different milestones. Whatever life path you are on, navigating through the obstacles can be pretty tricky to do alone. Therapy can help with that. Working to achieve your next career goal or trying to start a family are common positive stressors people face. The great thing is that we really do not have to go through these alone. Even if we have the biggest support system and love family, a therapist can often give us support and help us learn skills to deal with stress that our loved ones might not be able to.

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Stress is unavoidable. It happens every day in small and big ways. How we deal with every day stressors can have a huge affect on our health. A therapist can help you gain skills and insights on life’s everyday stressors.

Your story and who you are matters. Therapy often has us go back through our past and make connections in our story that have brought to where and who we are today. When retracing our life path, it can be easy to get lost along the way. A therapist can offer guidance and advice to help you form your own opinions and decisions.

Another positive reason someone might seek therapy is the relationships in their lives. These don’t always have to be love realtionship either. Yes, it can be very helpful to seek help if you are having trouble in a relationship. However, seek therapy before any problems arise can also be key to building strong and lasting bonds. Therapy can again give advice or skill to handle bumps later on down the road. Something helpful therapy has given my relationship is the ability to express my love in a love language other than my own. This can be easier said than done.

TAKE-AWAYS TO REMEMBER

Therapy can be for anyone. It can provide help with relationships, life goals, understanding yourself and others, gaining healthy coping skills, and many others. You don’t have to have something “wrong” with you go. Reach out to use on instagram, facebook, or comment on this post some reasons why you’ve gone to therapy and what you got out of it. Look out for our next blog posts on signs you might want to seek out help and what to look for when finding a therapist that’s right for you.

-J


It takes a village

It takes a village…

The saying “it takes a village…” has been coming up a lot for me. Recently, Greyson’s daycare class has been closing randomly due to COVID and I have had to rely on a lot of my friends to help me watch him during this uncertain time. I have always been one to struggle with asking for help. Throughout the years, asking for help has gotten easier–especially after having a kid. However, it is still very uncomfortable for me. When I was picking Greyson up from my friend’s house this week, the saying “it takes a village” came to my mind. Ever since moving to Tennessee, I have had to work on creating my support system here. I have made friends who have become family, had jobs that have been very flexible and supportive, and found a church who has welcomed me with open arms. It takes a village to raise a child. I cannot do it on my own.

When thinking of the saying “it takes a village,” I thought about my own recovery. Not only does it take a village to raise a child, but it also takes a village to continue in active recovery. My village consists of my therapist, dietitian, close friends, and those who pray for me daily. I cannot do recovery without them…I have tried. When I try to be in recovery without my “village,” I slip backwards quickly. I isolate myself and tend to become very depressed. Life is not meant to be done alone. It takes a village to overcome the struggles and addictions we all face.

I remember when I first talked about my abuse. I would try to isolate because I didn’t think anyone would understand. I was grieving my childhood, grieving my dad being taken away, and thinking everything was my fault. When I started dancing, I found a community that helped me through the dark times. I was a part of a youth group and began opening up to people. Throughout the years, I realized that my village has changed. The people who were in my village a few years ago are not the same people in my village now (some may be, but the majority is not). That’s normal. In life, we go through different seasons.

I have recently found a community at my church who push me to be the best person I can be. I have a few close friends who have been there for me at my worst and there for me at my best. When I struggle, I have people I can reach out to. I have people who want to see me succeed and who tell me the uncomfortable things I may not want to hear. I have people who have my best interest at heart. I have people who love Greyson as their own. My village may be small, but my village is mighty.

I encourage you to find your village. Find your people who can help you find your purpose. Find your people who encourage you. Life isn’t meant to be done alone. Recovery isn’t meant to be done alone. There are people out there who love you and want to see you succeed.

-M